Deserving Everything You Get

Ah, you worked so hard! You earned it! You DESERVE this.

…But what about the other stuff? The bad stuff…

We are quick to claim our merits and successes, yet we often leave room for the victim to enter the room when it comes to our failures, the negative, and the things that don’t go our way.

What if we deserve everything we get?

And please stay with me…there are, of course, extenuating circumstances where that, in fact, it is not the case, and life is owed the credit.

However, that is not what I’m talking about.

What if we took acceptance of the ‘bad’ things that happened to us, even a fraction as much as we did for our successes?

I think we would take control of our own lives in ways we never believed possible.

There is something about full-circle accountability with this one. Looking at a situation and owning your role in it. And better yet, learning from it. We as humans sometimes default to pointing the finger, but one of the things I try to make a point of is to point it back at myself first. Evaluate my part. See where I can do better. And going, yeah, I had a part to play in making this thing happen, even if it wasn’t great.

But remember, if it was something good or a success, we would be quick to admit our own part…

Back to deserving everything(the bad too), I think there is also a layer to looking at this in a non-emotional way. Not beating yourself up or coming up with 1000 ways it could have gone differently. But looking at it, and taking it for a lesson that it is, and trying to do better. Rooting your understanding that, yeah, maybe I do deserve everything I get and it’s not necessarily a bad thing.

Non-emotional acceptance of the things that happen around us, no matter if they are good or bad, and acknowledging our part in it, is fundamental to our growth.

So approach your life with an open hand, and be quick to shut the door on your own inner victim.